Simply Asking for Success

If I could only give one piece of negotiating advice to anyone then undoubtedly that piece of advice would be a simple three letter word:

“Ask.”

This simple word is the most powerful tool that you can use to maximize your success with others. Why is that? Simply because the biggest hurdle that we often face throughout our life comes from our own fear of rejection. We create our own internal roadblocks for success in the form of self-doubt and limiting beliefs. We often convince ourselves that we won’t get something, even before we ask it, because of some consideration that we create in our minds.

Human beings are motivated by two simple forces, according to peak performance expert, Anthony Robbins, (1) We try to get as far away from pain as possible, and (2) We are attracted to that which gives us pleasure. Rejection is embarrassing and it hurts our ego, hence it is painful, so we try to get as far away from rejection as possible by choosing the safe route and walking the other way. We justify walking away from a rejection by telling ourselves that if someone wanted us to have something, they would offer it to us.

The flaw in this thinking is that we do not know why a person might not offer us something. There is always a chance for rejection, but there is also a chance in acceptance. If we do not express that which we desire in the form of asking, then others will not know what we truly want. For example, a girl may not wake up thinking about going out on a date with you. Neither does your boss wake up thinking about your next raise. What is very important to you and your life, may not be apparent to the other person until you bring it to their attention.

Why you Shouldn’t Fear Rejection

Jack Canfield in his book, The Principles of Success, gives a good reason why we should not fear rejection. He says that rejection is merely an illusion because if you really look at the situation, what have you truly lost when being rejected? The answer is nothing. If you ask a girl out on a date and she says “No,” then instead of focusing on your hurt ego, realize that you did not have a date with the girl before you asked her out and you don’t have a date with her now, so really what has changed? Absolutely nothing--and think about it. You have lived your entire life without dating this girl, so you know how to deal with it. Simple move on to the next girl and play the numbers game. Eventually, someone will say YES. That’s what life is—a numbers game.

If you Don’t Ask, you will Never Receive

Opportunities float past us daily and it’s the ability of highly successful people to ask for things that they want to seize as many opportunities as possible. When you want something, simple ask for it. This is a little saying that I leave my students—“If you don’t ask, then you absolutely will not receive. If you do ask, then there is a chance that you might receive.” Either way, you stand to lose nothing by asking, so just do it.

For over 10 years, Tristan Loo has inspired, motivated, and brought success to the lives of the people he’s touched. Successful in his own right, Tristan has competed athletically against Olympians as a world-class gymnast, saved lives as a police officer, authored numerous Personal Development and Interpersonal Communication books and articles, and is a highly sought-after Personal Development Coach. Tristan is the founder of the Synergy Institute, a San Diego based Personal Development Firm. His philosophy of passionate living and helping others fulfill their dreams has continually been the driving force that has placed him well above the industry standard. Visit Tristan's website at http://www.synergyinstituteonline.com or by email at info@synergyinstituteonline.com

The Easy Way

How To Make Work Fun and Earn More Money...

"What you can do, or dream you can, begin it; boldness has genius, power and magic in it." Johann von Goethe

Making work fun and earning more money in the same sentence? It is possible to love your job, if you know how to create your ideal environment. Do you enjoy the camaraderie of walking into an office every day and seeing the same smiling faces? Or do you prefer working independently of supervision? Do you enjoy going to the same place every day or prefer a job where you're moving around? Do you like work with routine where you perform the same tasks day in and day outB61?

To make work fun and earn more money may require you to take more risks. Is it important to you to work for a large organization where you receive lots of perks and benefits? Or are you more of a maverick? Are you a risk taker who prefers to be your own boss, with the freedom to set your own hours, and possibly travel? Are you more suited to a work environment where you are moving around in different locations each day? What matters most freedom or security?

These are the questions I was asked on multiple questionnaires when I visited a career counselor and motivation coach years ago. What came up for me was a need to work independently, free of supervision, and with flexible hours. Self-motivation comes naturally to me. I love what I do for a living so it's easy for me to work without supervision. If I won $50 million in the lottery, I'd still continue with my speaking engagements, seminars and leadership training.

How about you? What are you passionate about? If you won the lottery tomorrow what would you want to do? What would you try if you knew you wouldn't fail? In making work fun and earning more money, these are questions to ask yourself. No matter how much money your career provides, you will not enjoy it unless it's in line with your core values.

How To Make Work Fun: Recreate Your Job Keeping Core Values in Mind

If you're bored with your work, find ways to recreate it. Life is too short to stay stuck in a job you can't stand. You may be in the right field, you simply need to "fine tune" your values. For example, freedom, creativity, travel and flexible hours are important to me. I don't like working in an office. Being able to spend time with my dog at the dog park in the middle of the day is a core value. As I write this, I'm sitting inside a Starbucks in a Portland, Oregon suburb where outside there are gorgeous views of the Cascades and Mt. Hood. What a great way to work! You get the point.

Ask yourself…what is my risk tolerance? What are my core values? What is something you are passionate about where even with a financial windfall you'd keep doing that thing. It may be a hobby that starts as a side job. You may have to keep your "real job" for a while to fund your dream. Figure out what you love to do and find a way to get paid for it.

Colleen Kettenhofen is a motivational speaker, workplace expert, & co-author of "The Masters of Success," as featured on the Today Show, along with Ken Blanchard and Jack Canfield. For more free articles and e-newsletter, or to order the book, http://www.colleenspeaks.com/ Topics: leadership, management, difficult people, public speaking. Colleen is available for keynotes, breakout sessions and seminars. 315http://www.colleenspeaks.com/

What Are Key Characteristics Of A Good Coach

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Those that are considering Success coaching may not even know where to turn when searching for the right influence to Coach them to victory. This is a crucial decision because not only will you be investing your money with them, but also your precious time.

Here are key points:

1. A good coach will ask you to step outside your comfort zone. Good coaches have a way of utilizing simple techniques to point out what may be holding you back or blocking you in areas where you hope to be prospering. Requested actions by your coach should provide a simple demonstration when completed.

2. Through conversations, your coach will have special insight about your unique characteristics and hidden strengths. Sometimes an outsider's view can remind you about your silent strengths. This might be why you are drawn to an idea of a success coach. You may have been looking for a mentor who is a more positive influence than your past or current environment. When you haven't had as much exposure to enriching relationships, it's easy to get down on yourself. A good coach will remind you why you are so special and an important part of this world.

3. An effective coach can help design a plan that is right with you and hold you accountable to it. Suggestions that are offered should ring true with your hopes before you agree to them. The "fortune" is in the follow-up, so whether you are going for business results, better relationships, a healthier lifestyle or constant course correction, the plans set forth must be followed for you to succeed.

4. A valuable coach will expect the best for you and want you to win.

In Jack Canfield's book "The Success Principles," he points out that "You only have control over three things - the thoughts you think, the images you visualize and the actions that you take (your behavior). How you use these three things determines everything that you experience." These are the things that you are looking to perfect with a one on one coaching session.

Michael Frazier, Success Coach, brings innovative and refreshing change to the Coaching field. He assists clients in designing and implementing a successful business plan and fulfilling life. Visit http://www.mikefrazierlive.com for his FREE e-book, which will give you the needed tools for Success on the Internet!

The Law of Attraction in Action

Several years ago I was looking for a new person for my team. A person who had been helping on a temporary basis was going back to graduate school and I knew I would need some assistance on several projects.

Thinking about my situation on a Monday morning, cross-country airline flight I made a list of the attributes, skills, attitudes and circumstances for the perfect person for this role. I made the list as specific as I could, thinking about details that would truly make this person “perfect.” As my week of consulting began on the west coast I reviewed the list I created each morning. On Wednesday afternoon my cell phone rang, and I had my very first conversation with Traci Nolan.

She introduced herself and told me she had heard through a friend of a friend that I might be looking for some help. Our short phone conversation left me thinking that I may have indeed found my new team member.

I talked with her face-to-face on Friday. She possessed more than 90% of164D the things on my “perfect person” list, right down to details like being a stay at home Mom with a the desire for schedule flexibility.

Traci was a great team member, and we worked together for several years. I met and worked with Traci because of the Law of Attraction.

The Law of Attraction states that we are continually attracting things into our life that are consistent with the energy we are putting into the world.

I know that statement doesn’t seem very specific or tangible. It doesn’t change the truth or validity of the Law.

The reason many people don’t believe in this Law is that they don’t completely understand it, or they mis-apply it.

The Law’s Three Parts

Many people think this Law is about visualizing what they want – getting a clear mental picture of their desired future. These thoughts are a very powerful part of the law, but they aren’t the whole package. You absolutely must have a clear mental picture, but it must be a picture of what you really want.

People misuse this part of the Law when they think about what they don’t want – like “we want to reverse the sales trend,” or “we want to reduce turnover.” In these cases you are literally attracting more of what you don’t want! We correctly use our thoughts when we think about what we want – a highly loyal staff or exceeding our sales goals.

The second part of the Law of Attraction is your feelings. The more we visualize our desired state – the more clearly we hold that picture, and the more we believe in that visualization – the more attractive we become.

Thoughts and feeling are powerful things. And even when people correctly apply the thought part of this Law and engage their feelings in it, they are still missing a key part.

The third part of the equation is spelled out in the Law itself. Attraction. If we want the Law of Attraction to work for us personally or professionally, we must take action.

Mark Victor Hansen and Jack Canfield had a vision and strong feelings related to making the Chicken Soup for the Soul books successful, but they also took action – everyday. They challenged themselves and their entire team to find five ways to sell books each day.

Were their vision and feelings important to the (continuing) success of these products? Of course. But without action they wouldn’t have met the ultimate success that they have achieved.

Thoughts, feelings, and actions; all in alignment. Put these three energy sources together, and you will begin to tap into the Law of Attraction.

How You Can Apply The Law

You can apply this to any part of your life – including your work and workplace. Here is a brief synopsis of how to get started.

1. If you have a strongly held picture of a desired future situation, great! If not – start there. Create the goal or future picture.

2. If this is a shared goal, get other people involved in co-creating this goal with you.

3. Believe in that vision! See yourself in that situation, with the types of employees, Customers and circumstances you would have then. Make your picture as three-dimensional as you can. Literally see yourself having achieved the goal.

4. Once your belief is strong, help others build their belief as well.

5. Take action. Maybe you don’t know exactly what the perfect next step would be. So what! Take confident action, even if it is a small step, in the direction of your desired goal.

Now you have the building blocks. After that you keep repeating steps 3-5 with confidence.

Apply the Law by using all three of these energy sources to literally begin to attract the things you desire into your situation. Think about how you can use this Law in your work today.

A Caveat

Recognize that the Law of Attraction will work, but only if you are ready to receive it on the terms of the universe – not your terms. This means that you must be willing to let go of your thoughts on exactly how or when things should happen. Do the steps above, everyday. The Law will work, just like gravity, but only if you do your part correctly.

Potential Principle – The Law of Attraction is as powerful as any physical law and just as real. When you understand it, you can use its power to change your life and your organization for the better.

Kevin Eikenberry is a leadership expert and the Chief Potential Officer of The Kevin Eikenberry Group, a learning consulting company that helps Clients reach their potential through a variety of training, consulting and speaking services. To receive your free special report on Unleashing Your Potential go to http://www.kevineikenberry.com/uypw/index.asp or call us at (317) 387-1424 or 888.LEARNER.

Depression Management Ideas

Dealing With Sorrow – Depression Management
By: Rene Graeber




While the term depression has been commonly used that people tend not to take it seriously anymore, it is a very serious condition that could impair one’s life. Depression is very difficult. It can debilitate one’s normal functions, making even the most mundane tasks such as getting up from bed or eating breakfast seemingly difficult. It is sad to think that a lot of depressed individuals are not treated because of the high costs of therapy. However, coping with depression is still possible without professional help if one knows depression management. Here are a few things that can help people deal with depression, it is important to note however, that professional therapy is still very invaluable with serious depression. These steps are just suggestions for alleviating the condition.

Staying active is one way to take one’s mind off depression. Primarily, activities help distract people from whatever it is that is causing their depression and it also helps channel unspent energies that build up when one is depressed. Keeping active also releases endorphins – natural mood boosters that somehow cheer people up.

It is also important to take a rest. Being depressed can be very exhausting, so it is essential to regain strength and energy if one is to deal with depression. Relaxation techniques can help one be more attuned to the self and be more at peace. When resting, stressors should be kept away from the bedroom so that ample rest can be obtained.

Depressed people should also express their emotions. Depression usually results from suppressed emotions. People who are grieving can be prone to depression if they keep their emotion to themselves. A lot of people avoid crying because they think it might be a sign of weakness. However, it is important to cry because it releases one’s emotions. When expressing feelings, it is important to avoid catharsis – venting up one’s anger by doing something violent like boxing, smashing things, and the like. Catharsis does not release one’s emotion, especially anger. Rather, it makes a person practice violence as an expression of emotion, and thus can be very dangerous.

Hang around with friends and loved ones. Depressed individuals need support very much. Other people can distract one from stressors. People can also remind a depressed individual that there can be more to life, and it is worth living even if it is simply because of the company of wonderful people.

Lastly, it is important to believe in oneself. A lot of people get depressed because they put themselves down. It is important to satisfy oneself and gain a sense of self-worth. It is good to do something that would make one happy. Prioritizing one’s self can help one to believe that one’s own life is important and can be enjoyed. Being kind to oneself is one of the most important steps to get away from a depressive state.

Depression management is possible and entails taking charge of one’s self. When dealing with depression however, it is important not to rush. Sadness does not disappear overnight; it takes time to get back on one’s feet. Little by little, one can get out of depression and have a normal life once more.


About The Author

Rene Graeber

Are you sick and tired of being "empty" inside and out? Worry no more! At http://www.depression-self-esteem-stress-management.com you´ll find free and reliable information that gives you the straight facts and solutions to beat depression.

Successful Coaches Are Full of Wit

If you are a successful coach be it an executive coach, business coach or corporate coach, do you demonstrate your wit when coaching your clients? Have you learned how to leverage that wit to increase your client's results?

Wit is defined by Webster as "powers of thinking and reasoning; good sense, wisdom; to make clever remarks." In thinking about this word and its meaning, I realize that this simple word - wit - is defined by each of its letters. And more importantly as a professional coach, I could truly leverage each of these letters during every interaction with my clients. Please let me explain.

Webster said that one of the definitions of wit is wisdom. The first letter of this word is W. As a coach you share potentially sharing your wisdom with your clients when necessary. According to my coach, David Herdlinger, "Wisdom is learning from the mistakes of others." What a great definition and how appropriate within a successful coaching practice.

Another word in the definition of wit is good. This implies that the value of integrity is present. Successful coaches must have integrity. Without integrity, these coaches would not receive the referrals necessary to build their practices.

Finally, when looking at the phrase "powers of thinking and reasoning," this suggests that tenacity must be also present. Many times, successful coaches must think and rethink to help their clients especially when using a developmental approach to coaching. Also, these coaches are also leveraging the powers of thinking and reasoning within their clients. To take these actions does require tenacity - the ability to continue, to keep moving forward, to overcome past inertia and obstacles.

If you are a coach and want to increase your success, then consider using your W.I.T. to achieve that goal. Let Wisdom, Integrity and Tenacity become your key values and let them drive your every day behaviors in all interactions.

Are you where you want to be? To find out where you are, then M.A.P. for Success, a FREE email course may help you begin to chart a course of business, professional or personal success. Visit http://www.processspecialist.com/action-plan.htm.

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Please feel free to contact me, Leanne Hoagland-Smith, Your Chief People Officer and Business Coach, who works with individuals and organizations that are tired of not being where they want to be and truly want more for their businesses and their selves. 219.759.5601

Opportunities Abound in Home Based Business

For decades, people have been seeking ways to have it all: time, money, family, fun, travel, and more. People are seeking life balance after years of working 10 hour days and spending their time commuting to jobs they are disenchanted with while there children are being raised by strangers. The answer to the dilemma of how to manage family obligations with personal interests and pursuits, all while producing an income that enables you to enjoy a life of luxury and freedom is to build and enjoy a profitable home-based business. The right home based business can be the platform for you to reach your dreams of financial independence and life balance.

While some people think of home based business as a way to produce a supplemental income, in reality, home based business has the potential to produce executive level incomes without the stress, headaches of traditional business, or high start-up fees that traditional businesses or franchises require. Operating a home-based business offers low start-up costs, the ability to be within your own environment, ultimate flexibility and no or low overhead. In addition, there are numerous tax incentives, no commute (except a few feet from your bedroom to your computer) and the personal fulfillment of knowing you are in control of your life and your destiny. You can run your business while you're enjoying time travelling or playing with your children at the playground. The concept of home-based business has appealed to many, providing millions of people the ability to create a life of their own design and enjoy a fulfilling life of financial freedom and personal balance.

In 2004, almost 7 million people were self-employed and working at home and that number is growing exponentially. With the instability in job security caused by the expanding global economy, people are finding that being self-sufficient and self-reliant is the only way to accomplish the level of financial security and freedom they desire. People are realizing there is more to life than punching a clock and are seeking a life that is fulfilling and rewarding. The advancement of technology has assisted in the growth of home-based businesses, enabling people to easily and cost effectively communicate globally. With VOIP and the advancements in high-speed internet and cellular telephone technology, people are able to connect across borders efficiently, making the world your marketplace. Businesses that are as complex as international trade can be easily be handled from your living room couch or with an iPhone as you're snowboarding down the slopes in Aspen.

Home based business opportunities range from clerical outsourcing, multi-level marketing businesses and specialized trade to lucrative direct sales opportunities. There's a great variety of legitimate opportunities that provide people with everything they require to establish and grow a successful and profitable business. Before starting a business, be sure to evaluate the following aspects to ensure the business model will meet your goals:

• Business model and structure.
• Marketing system provided (if applicable)
• Income potential and how you receive your income (check, direct from customers, from company, etc.)
• Time required to produce the income
• Flexibility in the business model
• Flexibility in time and location
• Products and demand for product
• Stability of the marketplace (i.e.: real estate, medical, etc)
• Ease of start-up, experience or know-how required
• Availability of assistance and leadership
• History of success with existing members, affiliates, etc.
• Stability of the parent company
• International viability
• Cost of start-up
• Cost of overhead

With a little due diligence, a desire to create your life by your design, a willingness to learn, and an entrepreneurial spirit, you can find the right opportunity for you and enjoy a lifestyle that is financially rewarding and fulfilling working from the comfort of your own home.

Shannon Lavenia has been recognized as an authority in home based business, internet marketing and direct sales. Currently a marketer in alliance with Liberty League International, she has produced million dollar results.