Find Your Soulmate

Have you had a lot of disappointing dates lately? Perhaps it's time to stop dating for awhile. Take stock.

Examine what would make a date satisfying for you.

Disappointment. Many women feel that dating is a waste of time. They don't want to take the time to go out with a lot of different guys. They would rather go right to the soulmate. Skip the preliminaries. Hmm. As a grocery clerk reminded me recently, "For losing weight, it's better to go slowly and steadily. Quick diets don't usually work." She added, "I can lose 10 pounds in three weeks, and eat a donut and gain it all back and more."

Although, we happened to be discussing diets, the same principle works for relationships. If you jump into one too soon, it can be over before you know it. It's better to get to know a man slowly before getting exclusive. Better yet, date as many men as you can, so you'll know which guy has the most compatible values and beliefs before you commit to one of them.

I said dating many men not sleeping with them. Having sex with a lot of guys while lookin5B4g for a soulmate is like boarding a plane bound for Chicago when you want to go Los Angeles. Your actions do not align with your goal. Remember, the point of dating many men is for a woman to connect with one wonderful man who cherishes, protects and provides for her. The time spent getting to know a man is time well spent to establish a foundation for lasting love.

Satisfaction. That feeling of having enough. Most women have a list that describes their ideal man. These lists can help a women decide what qualities she absolutely requires for a satisfying partner. However, the list has a major weakness. It usually describes your perfect girlfriend not your man. You know...he has to be sweet, gentle and kind. Sensitive. Although men have those qualities, they generally don't express them the way a woman would. They never have. They never will. There's a need for women to rethink their expectations of men.

I've seen that list lead to disappointing dates for many of my women clients. If your list hasn't been working for you lately, it might be time to revise it. Relationships can be so much more satisfying when a woman can appreciate the gifts that a real man brings to her.

Insanity has been described as doing the same things over and over but expecting a different result. There is a plethora of fresh ideas and insights provided for you in the resource box below. Try something different to find your soulmate. You wil581l get a different result and most probably meet some great guys.

Patricia Fuqua's just published Manifesting Your Soulmate:The Skillset for Spiritual Women Over 35 describes a breakthrough system for manifesting your soulmate. This article references two elements essential to the breakthrough five step system. You can order the book at http://www.BarnesandNoble.com or http://www.Amazon.com Reprints are permissible only when Patricia Fuqua's contact information is included with this article. More relationship information can be found at http://www.communitymediacenter.net, The Patricia Fuqua Show.

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